Nov 27 2009
A Sexless Marriage, Not The End of Your Marriage
A Sexless Marriage, Need not be the end of your marriage.
Marriage is all about love and commitment. Many of us have heard this before and one of the ways married partners show love and affection to one another is by making love. But what if you have a sexless marriage? Does it mean you do not care for each other enough? Does it mean you don’t enjoy each others company? Or does it mean you do not find each other attractive? From Libido problems to feeling tired all the time, the loss of desire to have sex can mean marriage problems.
In reality it should not necessarily mean any of those negative thoughts. You may not be having married sex for various reasons. It may be because of health related fears, fears of sexual performance or habitual reasons. A healthy sexual relationship is always encouraged during marriage. Having sex with your partner is not only healthy but a great stress relief. But not having sex during marriage for long periods of time should not mean the end of the marriage.
Many women have blamed the addiction of porn as a reason for a lack of sex and wanting to end their marriage. If your husband is addicted to pornography, then you need to seek help and professional advice. Whatever the reason you need ways to get your husband’s full attention and get him to listen to you in and out of bed.
It all comes down to understanding one another and trust. Communicating with your partner about your problems and not assuming they will automatically know how you feel. When I say communicating, I don’t mean shouting. Communication includes talking about your feelings and importantly listening. No marriage is perfect but the one thing that holds you and your partner together is a bond of trust, mutual respect and care.
Extra Marital Affairs
A sexless marriage can be blamed on a partner having extra marital affairs. If your partner is having extra marital affairs it is clear they are not satisfied with sex within the marriage. Does it mean you should not try salvage your relationship? Is there no way you will take him back? How about, why did your partner cheat? What led them to cheat on you and the marriage. Now I do NOT condone cheating on your spouse but asking yourself what led them to cheat may help answer why you both may consider saving the marriage.
